We’re in the St. Louis area for a little Christmas kick-off fun… triggered by a trip to the states from No Baby Ruth. When she said during one of our chats that she’d be visiting for Thanksgiving, I invited my family down for the weekend to see her and her family. We’ve had a great trip full of holiday cheer and meet-ups with NBR and Arch Mama. The three big kids had the best time together today! Here they are saying goodbye to each other, the only opportunity to get them all in one photo!

Sadness… And cuteness!

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Now that we have a new baby, I’m trying to protect him better than I did his big brother. I was naïve about protecting identities the first time around, but this time, I’m trying to be better.

There will be certain posts that include photos and videos I will want to password protect. If you’d like the PW, please don’t hesitate to email me!

I gained 18 pounds when I was pregnant with Matthew. He came out weighing 8.6 pounds – almost half of that weight gain.

I gained 35 pounds with Bryson’s pregnancy.

35 pounds.

Almost double what I gained with Matthew. He came out almost 9.5 pounds – a far cry from half of my weight gain. Yes, I started out 25 pounds less than when I got pregnant with Matthew, but that doesn’t justify that gain. I did nothing different, I ate the same way – but I gained twice as much weight.

Go figure!

I’m not down about it – I’m not even frustrated.  Most of the weight fell off within the first two weeks of having Bryson, but I’m left with 8 pesky pounds that want to stick around.  When Bryson was 4 weeks old, I only had 6 pounds left to lose, but the trips to DQ and our newfound love of Magnum ice cream bars brought 2 pounds back.  I don’t mind those two pounds – because I love the ice cream that put them there – but it’s time to get serious and get back in shape.

Here I am 11 days after Bryson was born – with 8 pounds still to go:

11 days postpartum – and 8 pounds to go

Here I am today, still 8 pounds to go, but I think I look a bit better.  HA!  (In all fairness, those are two different bathrooms so maybe that’s why I look better today than I did then!  Come to think of it though, I’m sure it’s because my uterus wasn’t fully shrunk back to normal in the first photo.  HA!)

36 days postpartum – and 8 pounds still to go!

So what’s my plan?

I have one (surprised?)!

B and I talked about me signing up for an expensive 10 week class (it’s the same class we met at over 7 years ago) that is known for making you shed pregnancy weight, but Bryson is so sporadic at night that neither of us is comfortable with me heading out each morning for a 5:30 AM class.  We had talked about dropping our Y membership, but we have now decided that I will try their classes for several weeks to see if that works for me, and to see how the schedule works.  The Y is WAY more flexible with class scheduling, so this is a much safer bet for me and will keep me more on track if I miss a planned class (I’ll just make it up later in the day).  They have free (included) childcare, so the boys will be dropped there on my way to class and I’m sure they’ll have a great time.  🙂

I have planned out 3 days a week of strength classes and 3 days a week of cardio classes.  I am going to stay off the treadmills for now – I need instructed classes to get my ass in shape.  There are several days that I could do a couple of classes back-to-back, which is what I like to do!  B will go some of the evenings with us, so that will be fun.  This is how we met, and working out together has always been something we enjoy doing – not to mention the camaraderie that we get from it!

So – that’s the plan.  I will do an official weigh-in, body mass calculations, body measurements, and maybe even a timed one mile run next Monday.

I start Tuesday (my 6-week postpartum checkup is Monday)!

There will be spreadsheets!

Babies aren’t supposed to sleep on their tummies, but when they’re over-stimulated and there’s nothing you can do to calm them down, besides putting them on their tummies, then it’s happening! I think this was from two days ago – which was by far the hardest day we’ve had (we had a terror of a child at our house wreaking serious havoc on both boys).

Yes – he’s on his tummy, in the swing. He was so happy!

This is my contribution to the Monday Snapshot over at PAIL Bloggers.

It’s been about 3 weeks since I got home from the hospital with Bryson.  I wasn’t sure what I’d be walking into, but I had high hopes that Matthew’s actions towards, and love of, other babies up to this point would trickle into our own home and we’d be all set.

This has been true for the most part  😉

Until last week, there had been nothing but love and kisses tossed on Bryson by his big brother.  I just got Matthew up from his nap and his first concern after asking where our visitors went (we had two of our favorite people here when he went down for his nap) was his little brother.  He caught a quick glimpse of Bryson on our bed and wanted to be seated right beside him, climbed up to kiss him, and is now sitting next to him in the bop.py with his hand on Bryson’s foot.  He loves his brother.

One day last week… not so much.  There was hitting.  And kicking.  And trying to pry Bryson out of my arms.  Today, he tried taking his favorite friend’s arms off of Bryson so that she could play with him instead.  Besides those two instances, we’ve had nothing but love and happiness – and help – from Matthew.  He asks to hold Bryson every day and showers him with lots of love.  I’m thrilled with this!

Bryson is not as “easy” a baby as Matthew was – or we’re just forgetting what it was like with a newborn.  I, for one, believe that we are programmed to forget the hard times so that we’ll have more babies.  I do remember some tough times with Matthew, but not as many as we’ve had with Bryson.  Bryson is also in a different environment than Matthew was, so I expect him to be unsettled.  Matthew had nothing but quiet (when he needed it and when he didn’t), both of his parents’ attention, and everything he needed exactly when he needed it.  Bryson has nothing but noise, “just give me a minute’s” from both B and me, and divided attention.  So – when you think about it that way, it’s no wonder that Bryson is a little bit of a “tough nut.”  When Matthew is sleeping, Bryson rests very easily.  When Matthew is up, Bryson is unsettled and nothing seems to soothe him.

Everyone knows about the sleep situation.  I made the same mistake with Bryson that I made with Matthew, and ever since correcting that, we’re all sleeping better.  Well, everyone but Matthew is sleeping better.  Matthew wakes up some time between 4:00 and 6:00 crying for me, and I have to go lay with him to calm him down.  I think he hears what’s going on outside his room because every time he wakes up, it’s when Bryson is up or has just gone back down.  This is surprisingly OK with me because I get to get in bed with Matthew, without a monitor and with B on Bryson duty, and I get REAL sleep.  I am so much more well rested now that Matthew is waking up in the early morning and wanting me.  HA!  Bryson still is not as settled at night as we’d like, but he’s getting a solid 2.5-3 hours when we initially put him down (which means I’m getting that too) and then wakes up a lot after his first waking, but I think I’m getting up 2-3 times a night, which is normal for a newborn.  I expect this to only get better.

Naps are going OK.  Right now, both boys are asleep and I’m thrilled.  Bryson does GREAT in the mornings once he’s up for the day and is very happy to just sit around and watch you do things.  After lunch, he gets fed and then plays in his little gym and today, I got some true smiles from him (and got them on camera!).  He naps after he “plays” and right now, he’s asleep in the pack and play (holy hell!) beside me, and seems rather peaceful.  Each day gets better in this regard, with the exception of yesterday.  But yesterday, we were all over the place with noise, distractions, visitors, etc – so I’m giving us all a free pass  😉

I was super proud of myself today.  B had an appointment just as I was getting ready to put Matthew down for his 2-3 hour nap.  B usually watches Bryson while I nap Matthew, but he had to take off and was a bit worried.  I said, “hey, next week, I’m on my own, so just go and let us figure it out.”  I put Bryson in the swing awake and headed into the nursery with Matthew (he still naps in the crib).  Matthew fell asleep during book time after a delay tactic or two (water, then George) and has been asleep for 2.5 hours (he’s got to be getting up soon).  I left his room to find Bryson in the swing, lightly dozing, who then greeted me with a true smile and we headed off to fold laundry, etc.  He was content, he was happy, all on his own.  I put one boy down while the other was awake and happy!  It was wonderful!  It gave me hope!

Parenting two is not hard when everyone is getting rest.  Parenting two is hard when no one is sleeping.  We started out with plenty of rest, then no rest, and are now back to plenty of rest.  The ease in parenting two has followed along that sleep pattern: easy, then hard, then easy again.

I feel like we’ve got this pretty figured out now.  Sure, it could change tomorrow, but as long as I have plenty of rest behind me, I can roll with the punches.  Yesterday was hard.  The day before that was even harder (we had a very hyper, naughty kid at our house who taught Matthew some bad things, and kept Bryson over-stimulated for hours).  Today has been ridiculously easy so far(and that includes taking Bryson to the dentist with me who then told me I need a root canal on Friday).  Evenings are by far Bryson’s worst time (as is the case for all newborns) so we’ll see what tonight has in store for us, but I’m thrilled with how things are coming together.

B is thrilled too!  Well, most of the time  😉  He has had several hours each day to work on a garage project and has built some really nice storage shelves for us, and is planning more for the basement.  He has another week until he goes back to work, but we’re both happy that’s he’s had time to do some fun things that he enjoys too.  He’s also been going to physical therapy for his shoulder and I’m hoping that that will finally feel better for him.  It’s been great for him to have this time to organize things the way he wants them, take care of his shoulder, and spend time with his boys (and me, of course!).  We’ll miss him when he goes back to work, but we’ve learned that we’ll be OK.  We also know he’ll work from home when he can (which is often)!

So that’s how it is parenting two.  Matthew will be in shock next week when B’s back at work, but he’s good at entertaining himself and when it is just me and the boys, he actually behaves better than when he’s with his dad.

Don’t tell B that  😉