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FET Update


We started PIO shots last night.  I am two nights into this and hopefully we have 3 more months ahead of us.  They are easy, but they’re not easy.  Psyching myself up for each one is a struggle and then it ends up being no big deal.  B is a wonderful shot-giver and makes it painless, for the most part.  I remember us hitting a vein (or whatever) a few times and that hurts – so I’m always worried that will happen.  That’s crazy because seriously, it happened only 3-4 times in all the PIO shots we did in the past 3 cycles.  That’s not a lot.

Transfer is on Friday.  My favorite embryologist (H) called me today to discuss which embryos to use.  We have 2 from Matthew’s cycle, and 5 from our first cycle.  I told her to use the ones she thinks are the best – that I trust her judgement.  And I do.  I found the conversation interesting because no one, in all the blogs I’ve read, has ever mentioned collaborating with the embryologist on which embryos to use.  I asked H a week or so ago which ones she wanted to use and bless her heart, she decided to involve me in the decision.  I just love the people at this clinic!

I did ask H a favor.  They don’t usually give you photos of your frozen embryos at our clinic because, “they can be worrisome to people because they don’t look like fresh embryos,” but I asked her to make an exception for me and she said yes.  I think it’s important to have that first photo just in case it works out.  How can I tell our next baby that I don’t have a photo of them as an embryo, but we have one of Matthew?

I also learned that we have 3 embryos in their own straws.  This is very important!  We have 2 straws with two embryos, and three with just one in each.  This is important as they thaw those straws with pairs – and what if one survives the thaw and one does not?  Do you thaw the other pair then too and what if those both survive, leaving three alive?  Now that I know about the singles, I am much more at ease about this and H assured me that we should not end up with 3 unless something “very unusual” happens.  Crisis averted!  (I was actually getting pretty worried about this, but now I’m not.)

Everything else is rather calm over here.  Matthew is a bit sick – not sure what’s going on there.  I’m bracing myself for a bad day tomorrow given that he’s had runny diapers all day and a snotty nose.  He’s been especially tired as well (3.75 hours of naps today) so I’m not sure what tomorrow will bring.

I lied.

Things are not 100% calm.  I setup my password for my PWP posts on October 1, feeling like the inevitable was about to happen, and shit hit the fan on the 5th in regards to holiday planning.  I am not directly involved, but it’s irritating and upsetting.  I will be posting about it, but I’m too exhausted from it right now to write about it.  I am not stressed about it – just so sick and tired of things being so hard with my family.  Ugh.

Besides that, though, things are good.  HA!

“Don’t fret about the holidays, Mama! You’ve got Daddy, Jackson, Lily, Jane, and me and that’s all you need!”

Author: Courtney

Hi, there, I’m Courtney. I never planned to stay home with my kids, but I got sucked into motherhood when my first baby came into our lives after years of infertility and multiple rounds of IVF. His brother followed closely behind, something we didn’t plan on after having such a rough road with achieving parenthood the first time around. My boys are IVF cycle twins, conceived on the same day but born two years and one day apart (they were both transferred on the same day in October, but with two years between them). My boys are the best of friends and my husband is a terrific husband, father, and most importantly… friend. He fully supported my desire to stay home (“I just wanted it to be your idea and not mine, I totally want you to stay home and raise our kids!”) and encourages me in everything I do. I am a lover of projects, spreadsheets, fitness, healthy cooking and eating, crafts, selling my stuff on FB (HA!), and the outdoors. If I’m active, I’m pretty darn happy!

12 thoughts on “FET Update

  1. I cannot believe that your FET is just a few days away! I’m sure it seems more real to you, but it’s snuck up on me! It’s so cool that you have such a great relationship with your clinic and the embryologist, and that you’ll be able to have a baby pic from so early on. So your plan is to trasfer two? If you thaw the first straw and get 1 to thaw, will you try and thaw a single?

    Poor Matthew! It’s maybe the changing weather? Has it gotten cool there? My friend in Chicago and my mom in STL both told me that the temps dropped quite a bit over the weekend. Did they up (over?) there too?

  2. Keeping my fingers crossed that your embies survive the thaw and that you have an easy, quick transfer! We have Aiden’s “first” picture as well and I can’t imagine not having one if we have a 2nd baby. It makes a great conversation with people! Lol

  3. Oooooh I HATED PIO. I did them myself, so maybe that’s why. I also found they burned like hell for some reason. Weird!

    I love hearing about your clinic. It makes *me* feel good about being involved in the process! It is such a shame that the medical community at large tends to think leaving patients in the dark is “for the best.” H is my favourite IF professional on the interwebs!

    BOO Family DRAMZ! Whyyyyyyyyy does it have to be this way? 😦

    Also – I talked to my Nanna, and while she had no idea WTF I was talking about, she said that she hopes “my friend’s baby” has a happy birthday on Friday too. So…maybe she DOES know what she’s talking about!

  4. I have such a GREAT feeling about your transfer on Friday!!! How awesome that you get a say in what embroys you transfer and a picture! I love the RE’s office (at least many of them sound this way) in that they are so thoughtful and really there to serve their patients.

    Oh family drama…good thing you got your PWP all set up. Ready to bitch right along with you and make things better in your world! But can I just say, I can’t believe you guys are already making plans for the holidays!

    Poor Matthew! I hope today is better than you anticipated.

  5. I can’t believe transfer is Friday already…HOLY COW! I think that means I’m a bout a week and a half out from my next transfer. I think it’s great to get to discuss which embryos you want to use. I didn’t speak to the embryologist but my RE and I discussed each emrbyo and the ratings on each. It’s nice you have those single frozen embryos. We’re down to 2 straws of 2 and decided we will go with what ever survives the thaw, which at my clinic is a 95% survival rate because they use the vitrification vs the slow freeze. PIO, yeah it’s a PITA, but worth it if it means you get a baby out of it, RIGHT? My RE didn’t have me do PIO this time, just the crinone, and it worked just fine. As for photos, my clinic doesn’t give pictures, but when they put the embryos on the big screen so I can ID my name with the embryos, I take a picture. Any my frozen embryo looked VERY similar to my fresh. I too think it’s important to have that first picture. I still have my failed picture too because, well, it was a baby for a few days anyway….

    Sorry about the family drama….I love my family, but there are times when I want to run and hide from them…I hope you get things worked out….you don’t need that stress while trying to be relaxed for your FET!

    Fingers crossed for you!

  6. Yay for starting PIO and your transfer on Friday!!! I love that your embryologist consulted you – my only input was how many we were going to transfer. I got a picture at the transfer, and I love having it. I make sure to look at it every day, and talk to my little embryos in my ute. Makes me feel connected a little bit more.

    That sucks you might have some family drama about the holidays – something you definitely don’t need. But listen to Matthew – he’s a very wise little man!!!

  7. I have 2 weeks of PIO shots left and my lumpy itchy ass can’t wait for them to be finished. They don’t hurt me as much as they make my butt itch… I am keeping everything crossed for you … I hope this works!! At my clinic, they just pick the best embryo(s) for me so we’re not part of that decision making process. They also don’t freeze them in straws here (or if they do, its always only 1 per straw). I’m not sure why they do it that way but I’m glad they do. I’m also glad that its working out for you!

    Sucks about the holiday garbage already – I hope that lightens up. Try to focus on your little man – the holidays will be so fun with him this year!!

  8. Wow, your FET came up fast!! I love that your embryologist is so communicative with you.

    Ps – I ordered Stella that bib b/c I always see it on Matthew and it looks awesome. 🙂

  9. So exciting! And wonderful news about the embryos that are frozen in single straws.

    Fingers and toes crossed for you!

  10. Wow! Your transfer is on Friday! Holy! I guess that’s the 12th. 🙂 I think it’s pretty awesome that you have pictures of M as an embryo and now too. I wouldn’t at all trade having to go through IVF for that picture, but it’s still seriously cool to have it.

    • Funny you mention that last part. One of the ways I convinced myself that IVF was awesome was because we’d have embryo pictures of our kids. HA!

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