All because I won’t nurse him. I should have weaned at 12 months. I’m losing my mind. T minus 13 days until my weaning weekend away. I can’t wait! It is time!
(And yes, after 30 minutes of screaming, I caved.)
And now I feel terrible because the poor boy just wanted to sleep. He’s out cold.
Hi, there, I’m Courtney. I never planned to stay home with my kids, but I got sucked into motherhood when my first baby came into our lives after years of infertility and multiple rounds of IVF. His brother followed closely behind, something we didn’t plan on after having such a rough road with achieving parenthood the first time around. My boys are IVF cycle twins, conceived on the same day but born two years and one day apart (they were both transferred on the same day in October, but with two years between them). My boys are the best of friends and my husband is a terrific husband, father, and most importantly… friend. He fully supported my desire to stay home (“I just wanted it to be your idea and not mine, I totally want you to stay home and raise our kids!”) and encourages me in everything I do.
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January 9, 2015 at 10:40 am
Oh, so so so hard. Poor guy, and poor mama. D asked yesterday randomly for the first time in quite a while, and I went ahead. I probably shouldn’t have, but I keep thinking “is this the last time??” He only did it for a few minutes and didn’t ask for the other side. Thankfully it’s gone well with JJ putting him to bed, but I think it will be a while before I can put him to bed myself and not nurse. Are you going to try to cut back gradually up until your weekend (here, yay!!) or will you continue like normal? What does he do when he wants to nurse, pull at your shirt, ask, etc?
January 9, 2015 at 10:44 am
I weaned Stella cold turkey at nearly 18 months, and what worked for us (out of necessity b/c I was so sick/pregnant) was 2 days away from her, and then when she returned home I told her the milk was “all gone.” She wasn’t happy for a cpl days, but she did understand the concept of something being all gone (because of food, etc). Good luck!
January 9, 2015 at 11:57 am
You and Stella are my inspiration!
January 9, 2015 at 11:25 am
Hi, I’m new to your blog and I am glad I’m reading about this now, while my baby is 9 months old! We are having horrible sleep problems right now, as my little cutie has gotten stubborn and only wants to sleep with mommy and daddy. I can imagine how much more strong willed she will be by a year old! I will definitely make it a point of trying to wean her then, especially considering what you’re going through.
January 9, 2015 at 11:56 am
Hi, and welcome! Every kid is different, and Jos had no problems weaning her daughter at 18 months. My first son weaned at 12 months and was totally ready. This baby, not at all ready! I was hoping he’d wean himself, which my husband laughs at. 😊 Sleep is bad for us too, but turning around this week. He was sleeping 10 hours, so I figured we didn’t need to wean… And then he got sick and blah blah blah. Good times!
January 9, 2015 at 11:30 am
UGH. I weaned Luke cold turkey at 12 months and it was totally awful. He chased me around the room sobbing signing milk and I refused. I did it cold turkey and it was bad for him for 2 days and me for a week. With Kate we’re still going strong at 14 months and instead of getting less frequent she’s asking more because she was sick recently I’m sure. I don’t want to cut her off quite yet, but I fear the longer I wait, the worse it will be. I am so scared of this! Weaning is so HARD. Hang in there, mama. Maybe a weekend away is just the thing.
January 9, 2015 at 11:50 am
That’s about when things went south for us too. A cold, teething, etc. and next thing I knew, he wanted to nurse a lot. Our main problem is the snuggles… I just love the snuggles and let him nurse AFTER he wakes too so we can cuddle in bed. That just makes him want to nurse all the time. A lot of this is my fault, but I think he’s also more attached than Matthew was. Matthew was ready to wean at 12 months, and Bryson was nowhere close.
I’m going to have a hard time when I get back from my weekend. Expect sobbing, crying posts from me. 😭
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January 12, 2015 at 10:03 pm
We did cuddling with my spouse (while available obviously) and a cup of milk when we first went cold turkey with the kid who was totally not ready to be done at 14 months when I was, then on day 3 I resumed cuddles with a cup of milk within reach at all times. I also wore a bra that was impossible to get into easily to keep myself from being tempted to cave. Good luck!
January 9, 2015 at 12:47 pm
Just this week, I’ve started to try cutting back on our daytime nursing. I go back to work in March, so the kid will start daycare sometime in Feb. He’s never taken a bottle, so we’re working on the cup now (not going well!) He’s only 10 months and nowhere near ready to wean but I want him to be used to not getting it during the day well before he starts daycare. My older son weaned at 14 months and I was SO READY! It was tough being back at work and still nursing in the night. It’s clear that each kid is different, though, so you never know how they’re going to react. Good luck!