The last 24 hours have been the hardest hours of my life as a mother of two kids. Hard days and moments come and go, and they leave me thinking, “yeah, that was rough, but not awful.”
Not this time. Oh no.
Whenever B goes out of town, one or both of our kids get sick. This has been a theme since long before Bryson joined our family. We always – ALWAYS – joke as B is packing that he’ll come home to a sick kid. We had breakfast with his folks on Sunday and B mentioned to his dad that he felt bad leaving me for two nights, three days alone with the kids and his dad said, “at least the kids aren’t sick.” B responded, “Not yet.”
Not yet was right. But it didn’t take long. B left yesterday morning at 8:00. By 4:30, crisis had hit our house.
Bryson was a super happy baby all morning and early afternoon. We took Matthew to school and then came home to just hang out together – and it was wonderful! We chatted, we played, we set an alarm so we didn’t forget to go back to get Matthew. HA! We picked Matthew up (he cried when we left school – he loves it so much!) and headed to lunch and Bryson was super alert and happy. We even got cupcakes. 🙂 We all came back and I got Matthew down for a good nap and then Bryson fell asleep and I actually wrote 12 baby/birthday thank you’s (long overdue). It was a great couple of hours!
Bryson woke up SCREAMING at 4:15 and I figured he was hungry, so of course I nursed him. He wouldn’t latch on, but he wasn’t gassy (the usual suspect when he won’t latch). Ok – he’s not hungry. I kept trying though, because that’s what moms do, right? Then Matthew woke up pissy from his nap (he always wakes up pissy) so I had two screaming kids on my hands, both needing to be held. I started texting B that something was wrong with Bryson, but I had no idea what. This went on for an hour.
Bryson finally settled down and went to sleep again, without eating much at all. I had enough sense to take his temperature and it was 97.1 under the arm – just fine. I didn’t worry. He slept 30 minutes and was up screaming again for another hour and then conked out hard. I assumed he was just over-tired and even texted that to B. But after 40 minutes, he was up screaming again, and even harder. By almost 10:00, it had been 5 hours since he’d eaten and he finally ate, which was so wonderful! I was relieved. It lasted 5 minutes and he was screaming again. He fell back asleep (of course) and then woke up screaming again at 11:15, but this time was burning hot.
His temp under the arm was 101.7 so with the added degree, it was 102.7 which is not good (I thought it was OK until I read on every medical site to go to the ER immediately). I did call two triage nurses who told me to take him to the ER right away – which is a problem when your husband is out of town and your two year old is asleep. I texted B and asked him to start calling people while I did the same. My friend, K, got the first call since she stays home with her daughter and didn’t have to go to work the next day (poor K). She answered the phone and headed over.
Long story short, we got to the ER and his temp AFTER baby Tylenol was 101.4 and he had a bad ear infection. They offered me a shot of antibiotics instead of the oral regimen and given that Bryson won’t take bottles from me and his dad is out of town (B can give him bottles), I opted for the shot. It was not fun to make him go through it, but he needed the meds and that was the only way I could know for sure he got everything he needed. And it was one dose!
So Bryson had his first trip to the ER. He was in ridiculously good spirits and charmed everyone, including the doctor who came back in after he was finished just to smile and talk to him. Cute! It took 2 hours from start to finish and we were back home at 3:00 trying to get some sleep. Matthew woke me up at 6:05 and I’ve been up since, with a super tired baby and a fussy toddler who didn’t nap today. YAY.
My fuse has been super short today, and that makes me feel bad because Matthew doesn’t deserve my grumpiness. He’s such a good boy who is just bored to death with his tired mom and sleeping brother. He’s been so good today, but when he didn’t nap, I lost my temper and quickly shouted at him. 😦 I immediately hugged him and cried into his shoulder that I was sorry, but what was done was done. He seems to not be fazed by it though, so that’s good. He’s such a forgiving boy.
Matthew’s in bed now, so that’s good for all of us. I told B that I was glad he was asleep so he could be “out of the line of fire.” I am just so tired and frazzled and just want to sleep. Poor kid – it’s not his fault that my night was so incredibly awful. I did completely relish book time with him and we had a great time. We took our sweet time reading CG, then “Where Do Diggers Sleep at Night?” (adorable book!), and then, “Goodnight, Goodnight Construction Site” (the best book in his collection right now!). I LOVE book time, and B usually does it – so this was just what I needed. I needed to snuggle my boy and give him the time and patience he deserves. Matthew fell asleep within 9 minutes of the lights going out. That’s the up-side of no nap! HUZZAH!
Bryson and I then had a nice nursing and snuggle and he’s now sound asleep in his little rocker. I loved holding him until he was snoring. I miss that with this little guy – there just isn’t time to sit and hold him for no reason other than that I want to. He gets short-changed in the snuggle department so when I have time to do it – I like to REALLY do it right!
So yeah – hard 24 hours. Impossible 24 hours. I’m so glad they’re behind us.
September 17, 2013 at 10:24 pm
Poor baby(ies)! Sorry you had a rough night. Been there! I hope everyone is well on the way back to being 100% !
September 17, 2013 at 11:38 pm
Jeez! What an awful 24 hours! I’m so sorry you had to go through all that. And Bryson too! I’m also glad things are better now. I hope the next 24 hours are MUCH better.
September 18, 2013 at 4:42 am
Woah. What a day!! Poor Bryson and poor mama! I can’t believe you to do his first ER visit on your own. Thank goodness for good friends who can come stay with Matthew! I hope you all had a good night. That cupcake looks DIVINE.
September 18, 2013 at 6:20 am
You poor thing that sounds terrible.I hope I gets easier. I alwalways wonder how single parents do it. Especially with little ones and more than one. Hope B isn’t traveling much soon.
September 18, 2013 at 8:03 am
Yikes, this sounds so hard. You sound like you handled it like a pro, so take some comfort in how awesome you are. Hope things are on the mend.
September 18, 2013 at 10:03 am
Ugh, sick babies are SO sad. I’m glad you were able to get him the medicine he needed. Stella is covered in a head to toe rash right now (viral & systemic according to the doc) so there’s nothing we can do but give her Benadryl and wait. Poor kiddos. 😦
September 18, 2013 at 10:48 am
Oh gosh, what a horrible night. Having two sick kiddos with a hubby gone sounds like an absolute nightmare. Thinking of you today and hoping that you all are able to get a nice long nap in and no more sickness until B gets home!
September 18, 2013 at 12:48 pm
So glad your terrible day is over and that Bryson is on his way back to health. What a night for you! I hope you are able to get some rest today. Take care!
September 19, 2013 at 6:07 am
Ugg that sounds like such a rough day!! I am so glad it is behind you now. Is Bryson feeling better? I sure hope so! I still say you are rocking this mum of two thing! 🙂 I can’t imagine doing it ALONE too. Hope B is home very soon!!
September 20, 2013 at 4:18 pm
Thank you all for your sympathy! I was feeling pretty sorry for myself, and I appreciate you all joining my pity party 😉