When this transfer was done, I thought of our remaining five embryos and felt such peace knowing that if this cycle doesn’t work, there will be others.
THERE WILL BE OTHERS.
I know that FET’s work – one of my best friends is proof of it. Many out there blogging are proof of it. A friend of a friend is proof of it. It can work, and why can’t it work for us?
Well, it can.
And we’ve earned it.
“Deserve” is not a term I use often (ever?) – because I don’t really believe in it. I believe you usually get what you get with the amount of work you put into something – or – sometimes you get lucky and sometimes you don’t (which is the case with IF). It’s that simple to me. Does anyone “deserve” anything over anyone else? I truly do not believe they do in most situations. The word, “deserve,” implies entitlement to me, and I don’t believe in entitlement except when it comes to things such as family building. I believe everyone “deserves” the family they want in their hearts, and no matter what journey anyone has travelled to get there, they don’t “deserve” it any more than anyone else.
So I won’t use that word here.
Some people have to work harder at building their families, and some don’t. That’s just how it goes. It’s sort of like life – some people always seem to land on their feet, when other people seem to struggle at every turn. Many people earn their families more easily than others, and many of us fight the hard fight to get there.
Some harder than others.
And that’s OK.
I will never believe that I worked as hard as someone who has lost several babies, or suffered a stillbirth or infant death. I truly believe that people suffering from RPL, stillbirth, and infant loss worked harder for what they earned in the end.
Right or wrong, I just do.
I can say, however, that after 2.5 years of trying for babies, having my ovaries probed twice, experiencing some very scary OHSS, getting hundreds of burning shots in the stomach, getting over 100 IM shots in my butt, having 2 unsuccessful IUI’s, having 4 transfers, and experiencing 1 early miscarriage – this cycle, as easy as it’s been, is hard-earned.
If it’s successful – we most definitely earned it (and it would also be a spot of luck).
It it’s unsuccessful – there will be others.
THERE WILL BE OTHERS.