All the Sun For You

A mom, two boys, a husband, and a whole lot of adventure!



Something shocking happened this morning at Preschool drop-off.  It was so shocking, that I stood there for a moment, not knowing what to say.

Scene:  I am walking the boys in, helping Matthew hang up his backpack in his cubby.  Bryson is actually behaving and staying close to us.

My Favorite Preschool Mom (MFPM):  “Courtney, why is it that every morning, you come in showered, hair done, and dressed and put together for the day?  I just don’t understand it, and it’s every day!”

Me: Pause, confused look, thinking ‘is there another Courtney in the hallway?’

Me:  “Are you serious?  This is the first day in the last two weeks that I’ve showered and dried my hair before school.”

MFPM: “Well, it sure seems that it’s every day.”  Smiles and laughs.

Another Preschool Mom (APM) laughs with MFPM and agrees that I have my shit together, or so it seems.

Me:  “Do you want to know something, MFPM?  I think the same thing of you every morning at drop-off!  And then most days, you come to pick-up in different clothes, and I wonder if you showered and got ready twice in one day!”

APM:  “Funny, I’ve noticed that about you too, MFPM!”

We all laugh together and I say, “Isn’t it funny what our perceptions are of one another?”

Everyone nods and laughs, and probably thinks to themselves, “hmmm… interesting.”

This, RIGHT HERE, is an example of how we see ourselves, how others see us, and how we see each other.

Powerful stuff, and even more powerful since it was all in good fun!


Author: Courtney

Hi, there, I’m Courtney. I never planned to stay home with my kids, but I got sucked into motherhood when my first baby came into our lives after years of infertility and multiple rounds of IVF. His brother followed closely behind, something we didn’t plan on after having such a rough road with achieving parenthood the first time around. My boys are IVF cycle twins, conceived on the same day but born two years and one day apart (they were both transferred on the same day in October, but with two years between them). My boys are the best of friends and my husband is a terrific husband, father, and most importantly… friend. He fully supported my desire to stay home (“I just wanted it to be your idea and not mine, I totally want you to stay home and raise our kids!”) and encourages me in everything I do. I am a lover of projects, spreadsheets, fitness, healthy cooking and eating, crafts, selling my stuff on FB (HA!), and the outdoors. If I’m active, I’m pretty darn happy!

2 thoughts on “Perception

  1. Your interaction just perfectly captured the power of perception and comparing ourselves to other! I’m glad it was a conversation in good fun, and I hope it’s one that everyone (including your readers like me) can take a moment and really reflect on.

  2. Funny how each of you thought that the other(s) had it more together than she did. LOL

    I do think that we are generally our own worst critics.

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