All the Sun For You

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It’s a Shit Show


Night one of the family trip, and my dad scheduled the big, fancy, 6-course restaurant for the night of arrival. In his defense, it’s the only night it’s open while we’re on property, but in my defense, I told him my 2 and 4 year old couldn’t handle a 2+ hour dinner.

No one cares what I say. So we went.

My boys were all over the dance floor and I was told by the staff they couldn’t go out there anymore. Ok. I get it. Fair enough. Then my dad told me to get Bryson under control once, then twice.

So I left with both boys. I told Hottie to stay so that we don’t hear about the money we wasted by leaving. He knew I was right, that was best. He went back to drink my wine and eat his dinner (my dad said they’d box mine up. Ummm… No thank you.)

The boys and I are in the suite, eating 5 star cookies for dinner. I told them it was a “fuck it dinner,” and they obliged. Ha! 😉 I even had Matthew say, “it’s a fuck it dinner!”

Honestly…. I think we’re the winners.

All tension gone. The fine clothing is hung back up, and we’re being real.

How’s that for getting my kids under control? 😉

Added bonus, this way of traveling and eating is totally keeping my calories in line. 6 course meal starting with pork belly (yuck!) or one cookie?

Author: Courtney

Hi, there, I’m Courtney. I never planned to stay home with my kids, but I got sucked into motherhood when my first baby came into our lives after years of infertility and multiple rounds of IVF. His brother followed closely behind, something we didn’t plan on after having such a rough road with achieving parenthood the first time around. My boys are IVF cycle twins, conceived on the same day but born two years and one day apart (they were both transferred on the same day in October, but with two years between them). My boys are the best of friends and my husband is a terrific husband, father, and most importantly… friend. He fully supported my desire to stay home (“I just wanted it to be your idea and not mine, I totally want you to stay home and raise our kids!”) and encourages me in everything I do. I am a lover of projects, spreadsheets, fitness, healthy cooking and eating, crafts, selling my stuff on FB (HA!), and the outdoors. If I’m active, I’m pretty darn happy!

11 thoughts on “It’s a Shit Show

  1. I thought you weren’t going on this trip??

    I get it if the rest of the fam wanted to do this dinner, I really do, but they can’t expect that you and the boys would be able to hang out for that long at dinner. Maybe it’d work, maybe it wouldn’t, but if it didn’t, there shouldn’t be guilting for that. Gah! Glad you enjoyed your cookies. 🙂

    • Yeah, we decided to go for the kids. Matthew has been talking about this trip all summer and had been excited to see his cousins, so I thought that was more important than my feelings. and it is.

      I agree that everyone should do what they want, so was fine with them all doing the dinner and us skipping out. But that was not an option even after telling them it would be a disaster with our kids. No biggie… just frustrating. Had we been allowed to skip it, we would have gotten room service. I love doing that with the kids!

  2. I thought the same as Jos – that you weren’t going! What changed?

    Also, I, too, would vote for cookies almost as big a toddler’s head. 🙂

    • See my reply to Jos!

      Dinner with just my family, eating cookies, and then finishing the night with a bath together was actually super fun… much better than stuffy, “sit still and eat,” lengthy dinners. I made Hottie go back and he said that we had a better time. Ha!

  3. Oh yes, we’ve been “bullied” into attending a couple of family events at fancy restaurants with the kids. It’s so stressful and I can’t enjoy myself at all. Good call on the cookies!

  4. Ugh. I’m sorry, we just did family holiday too and I am so damn happy to be home. Screaming babies cause they’re missing naps and screaming teenager because we are not doing what she wants for even longer. Nobody wins. Glad you guys won out in the end!

  5. Amazes me how we can be with our kids 365 days a year, know what they can handle and their limitations, and yet (family) think I’m being too harsh when we don’t participate in something like a long sit down meal. Sometimes I oblige just for the silent “told you so” :] Enjoy your trip!!!

  6. I’m yet to meet any child who can sit through a 2 hour long dinner! I’m glad you escaped and enjoyed you “fuck it dinner”. I hope the rest of the trip is a bit better, with more age appropriate expectations on your boys.

  7. I hate it when people who are not with your kids all the time think they can parent better. They like to “lord” it over you. Molly would have been all over the dance floor. We had a wedding on Saturday and the bride was an hour late. Molly was lying on the ground in a catatonic state 😉

  8. Cookies for dinner! Love it. Hope the rest of your trip is going well.

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