All the Sun For You

A mom, two boys, a husband, and a whole lot of adventure!



I can hardly read or talk about today’s Supreme Court decision without tearing up.  I honestly cannot believe it.  Gay marriage has been legal in my lovely state for over 6 years now (what a proud day that was – our conservative little state granted rights to a minority group before they were told by the federal government they had to do so!), but I truly wondered if I would ever see this day, when all Americans are free to marry the person they love regardless of their sexual orientation.

As I was driving the boys home from the neighbor’s today, I told Matthew that this was a very important day because, “mommies can now marry mommies, and daddies can now marry daddies, like your mommy married your daddy.”  He does not understand this at all (and of course you don’t have to be parents to get married – duh!), but I felt the need to tell him how important this day is.  Because it is.  My children and I have both witnessed a very important piece of history in our shared lifetimes together.  I will tell them about this one day, and will tell them where we were when we heard the news.  What is interesting to me is that they will never know anything different.

Isn’t that amazing?  Our children will never know what it’s like to be told that they can only get married if they marry someone of the opposite sex.  This amazes me in the same way that I’m awed by the fact that they will never know what a real dial tone sounds like, or know how to use computers without touch screens.  It’s just… weird.

And it’s awesome!


Author: Courtney

Hi, there, I’m Courtney. I never planned to stay home with my kids, but I got sucked into motherhood when my first baby came into our lives after years of infertility and multiple rounds of IVF. His brother followed closely behind, something we didn’t plan on after having such a rough road with achieving parenthood the first time around. My boys are IVF cycle twins, conceived on the same day but born two years and one day apart (they were both transferred on the same day in October, but with two years between them). My boys are the best of friends and my husband is a terrific husband, father, and most importantly… friend. He fully supported my desire to stay home (“I just wanted it to be your idea and not mine, I totally want you to stay home and raise our kids!”) and encourages me in everything I do. I am a lover of projects, spreadsheets, fitness, healthy cooking and eating, crafts, selling my stuff on FB (HA!), and the outdoors. If I’m active, I’m pretty darn happy!

7 thoughts on “Momentous

  1. Whole I do not live in your country I too am thrilled with today’s decision! I am excited anytime another country grants equal rights! This is absolutely worth celebrating!! 🙂

  2. An amazing and momentous day indeed!! I was so happy when I heard about this. Yay America, you got this one right!! 🙂

  3. I did a dance around my living room when I saw the rainbows all over the book o faces. YAY! YAYAYAYAYAY!

    Heather Has Two Mommies is a great starting place for the conversation starting at about 4 (when we started reading it with the kid before her first two-gentlemen wedding) – some families have two mommies, some have two daddies, some have one of each, some have two mommies and two daddies (who often live in mommy-daddy pairs at two houses), sometimes it’s grandparents, etc. The new edition leaves out the conception part (no idea when the right age for “you arrived with lots of help from a team of doctors before you grew in mommy’s belly” is… but that part is less weird in the PAIL realm than the non-PAIL family).

    • We’ve already taken Molly past the place that helped make you. I’ve just been saying IVF right from the start!

      • We haven’t gotten to baby making yet beyond the book Josie told us about (which is great!). We are not glossing over it at all, just like we haven’t glossed over birth (my MIL gasped at the book I had made of Matthews birth day, which has our first photo of him on the cover, covered in blood and vernix. She was appalled that we’d share that “scary” picture with him. What???). IVF is a HUGE part of my kids stories, and they will know about it as soon as we get to the penis/vagina discussion about baby making!

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