I’m exhausted. My kids hardly give me a moment of peace these days. If Bryson falls asleep to nap, Matthew fights his for an hour. By the time Matthew is asleep, I get about 20 minutes to myself before Bryson wakes up (too early). Today, Matthew fell right asleep and Bryson fought it and fought it, screaming and screaming, sending tension through my shoulders.
I just want to make their damn birthday cake, but by the time they’re both asleep, I’m only left 20 minutes and honestly, I’d rather just sit, dammit.
I had these grand (well, not really that grand) plans and now I’ve hired it all out. I’m not even kidding.
Food? Being catered. By the time we buy everything I need to cook what I want to cook, it costs the same. Then add in the time to prep and cook and my head was spinning. My favorite place is catering the party with chicken skewer pita sandwiches with Gyro sauce and veggies (build your own). They’re also bringing their amazing hummus (it’s ridiculous). Done.
Cake? I’m only making the top tier for them to blow out candles. I’ll be making white cake for their real birthdays on Wednesday and Thursday, so why make a whole other white cake now when I was always planning on having cupcakes in addition to the cake? Stupid. I don’t want a lot of cake left over like last year (really, I would like that, but my ass wouldn’t). So I will just be making the top chocolate part of this little masterpiece (?) and will put some little fondant signs on the sides, make some fondant cones, whatever. I can do those things late at night without making noise, and working with fondant relaxes me (isn’t that weird?). They will blow out their candles and they will like it. Then they will eat cupcakes (they don’t even like chocolate cake, but the digger can’t dig up white dirt!). I’ll be making the awesome raspberry chocolate cake I made for Hottie last year for his birthday. I’m ordering 4 dozen cupcakes for this party and the guests – we’ll keep the chocolate cake for us once candles are blown out. Done.
(After inserting that picture, I’m feeling guilty about not doing the whole damn cake. Hmmmm… we’ll see. No, we won’t see. I’m just doing the top tier, dammit!)
Party favors? Purchased as planned. They are cute, they smell good, and they sent them in the bigger bags I requested so I can add something to the bag. But what to add is the question. I don’t want to put any food in there because it will absorb the soap smell. I wasn’t thinking on that one. I may just leave them with just the soap and call it a day. Yes, that sounds good. Done.
Decorations? Purchased as planned! They arrived the other day and they are just perfect. I wanted these same decorations and theme last year for Matthew’s birthday but hopped on the Cur.ious Geor.ge theme because I knew he’d outgrow it by now (and he did), so I put this on the back burner. Good thing I did, because this theme is perfect for the two boys who play trucks and construction site all day long together. The banner, door hanging, and toppers look as great as, even better than, the photos. Done.
doing purchasing/hiring out just enough to make it look like I know what I’m doing. I do know what I’m doing, I’m just burned out beyond belief and don’t want to work on party supplies, cakes, and favors this year. I just don’t. I’d rather use my limited free time to sit at my computer and hammer out a few posts on my blog (loser!). I told Hottie today via text that I feel like a bad mom for not wanting to work on this. He said, “No need to feel terrible. They’ll love the party just the same.”
He’s right, they will love it no matter what, and Matthew keeps saying that he doesn’t even want a birthday, so who cares if he doesn’t love it!
June 17, 2015 at 3:46 pm
You are brilliant to hire all this stuff out! If the costs are similar, why would you put yourself through all the stress of doing everything! Quite honestly, I think you are one smart women who is using her time well and therefore hopefully helping protect her sanity! The party will be awesome and no-one (other then you, maybe) will care that you didn’t make the whole cake or cook all the food. So hopefully you can let it go and just enjoy the party. 🙂
June 18, 2015 at 4:11 pm
Thanks! I’m starting to really see the value in hiring this stuff out. I used to insist on doing all of it – banners, decorations, cakes, etc. but last year I hired out banners and decorations, and that was great. This year, I’m hiring out even more. It just makes sense!
June 17, 2015 at 4:59 pm
Today is my party planning day. I was going to make the cake but then my SIL got onto this lady and I was just all I LOVE YOU. Where did you get all of the stickers etc? The cake will look awesome. I can’t believe Matthew still naps – so lucky!!!!! Bryson might be like Molly she gave up naps v v v early – shit head 🙂 try not to be super mum you’ve got way too much on your plate xxxxxx
June 18, 2015 at 4:31 pm
No stickers – It all came constructed!!!!!!! It all came from Etsy! Yes, very lucky on the naps! Bryson usually goes down great but likes being held 1.5 hours in, and I always oblige because you never know when he’ll want to stop snuggling. I created snuggle monsters in both of my boys! Molly is a little shit head for quitting naps! Ha!
June 18, 2015 at 7:50 pm
Which site – send me the link! Yep she’s a shit head but we ❤️ her. Oh god I made practice cup cakes to decorate. Please help me. Please 😂😂
June 17, 2015 at 5:16 pm
That all looks awesome and just organizing it, let alone making sure everything gets purchased, is a big accomplishment. Enjoying your time instead of doing all that extra work is very wise. Happy early birthday to both boys!
June 18, 2015 at 4:32 pm
June 17, 2015 at 5:44 pm
Court…you’re insane…good for you for giving yourself time….it’s going to be a blast & I so SO wish I could be there…I didn’t even have parties for my kids last year, so I’m envious you people to invite 😄 it’ll be amazing as your parties have been before!!
June 18, 2015 at 4:33 pm
Thanks! It’s going to be very low-key! I’m excited!!!
June 18, 2015 at 4:33 pm
When are you going to KC?
June 18, 2015 at 5:53 pm
Not soon enough!!! I’ll def keep you posted 😃
June 17, 2015 at 9:21 pm
NOT a loser at all. Your time is valuable, and your decompress time is valuable, and if you don’t want to do everything from scratch, good for you for admitting it and doing what is best for you and the kids! B is right – the kids won’t care/notice either way, and if you can be a more present/happy Mom by hiring some of it out, that’s awesome!
June 18, 2015 at 4:33 pm
Thank you… I needed this!
June 17, 2015 at 9:52 pm
Birthday parties are a shit ton of work. Way more than they look like. My daughter just had hers and I tried to do it as low key as possible, and I did, AND I asked both sets of grandparents for lots of help, and it was still so much work. I was exhausted when it was done and I didn’t even stick with a cute theme or get lots of amazing decorations/favors (like you did). Not that many people even ended up coming, so I’m glad I didn’t go all out for it. And I’m really hoping my ddauhjter picks Disneyland next year instead of a party. I was so sad when she picked party this year. So, so sad.
I think the birthday party looks like it’s going to be freaking amazing. And your husband is right, your kids will never know who did what. What they will know is that you love them and would do anything for them, including putting on an amazing construction-themed party.
June 18, 2015 at 4:35 pm
I’d pick Disneyland. Every time! I love that you give her that option!
June 18, 2015 at 9:09 am
I’m glad you are doing the party and I’m sure the boys and family will be too, but this is why I opted to not do a party for Drake this year. It’s too easy to get all consumed with it, add too much stress to your plate, when in reality they would be fine with a box cake and some candles to blow out. Good for you for realizing you can’t do it all and hiring out for the things you did. It will all work out in the end. And hopefully you will have more downtime to yourself. Nap, boys! For your mama’s sake.
June 18, 2015 at 4:36 pm
I thought of you as I made the decisions to hire out. I thought, “this is why Steph skipped it this year.” So smart of you!
June 19, 2015 at 12:19 pm
June 18, 2015 at 4:37 pm
Next year, please remind me to skip the party and bring them to KC instead. I mean it. All Matthew wants is the Wolf Pool.
June 19, 2015 at 12:20 pm
I’m on it! Any excuse to see your awesome family!
June 19, 2015 at 8:52 am
Why is it that dad’s never feel guilty about not doing these kind of things? Just moms! Why are we so prone to feeling guilty about something our kids won’t even remember??!!