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The Monday Snapshot – Getting There


Matthew started soccer last weekend. It’s not anything formal, just a clinic to get them used to kicking the ball and having fun with the sport. They don’t play games, because, well, a group of two year olds aren’t capable of doing that yet.

Last weekend, he just wanted to run around, THROWING the balls, not listening to anyone (B, coaches, nor myself). It was hard for me because I enrolled him to give him something fun, but with structure. I want him to learn to listen well and take instruction. I expected this to come immediately since he’s in school.

Not so much!

B and I parent very differently (that’s a post in the making) and he wanted me to lighten up (rightfully so). It was hard.

This past weekend, I let B take him and I met them there. He refused his shin guards (of course) and his soccer socks, but he was having a good time. And he was listening a little better. He took a quick break to come say hello to me… And was extra cute about it. And then he was off again to have FUN. And I didn’t interfere as much as last week (all the parents step in).

We’re both getting better. We’re both getting there!

Author: Courtney

Hi, there, I’m Courtney. I never planned to stay home with my kids, but I got sucked into motherhood when my first baby came into our lives after years of infertility and multiple rounds of IVF. His brother followed closely behind, something we didn’t plan on after having such a rough road with achieving parenthood the first time around. My boys are IVF cycle twins, conceived on the same day but born two years and one day apart (they were both transferred on the same day in October, but with two years between them). My boys are the best of friends and my husband is a terrific husband, father, and most importantly… friend. He fully supported my desire to stay home (“I just wanted it to be your idea and not mine, I totally want you to stay home and raise our kids!”) and encourages me in everything I do. I am a lover of projects, spreadsheets, fitness, healthy cooking and eating, crafts, selling my stuff on FB (HA!), and the outdoors. If I’m active, I’m pretty darn happy!

10 thoughts on “The Monday Snapshot – Getting There

  1. I am right there with you. Sometimes I find myself getting frustrated with Avery when we are painting. Seriously, why? I think I only struggle with high expectations when there is a “right” way to do it. So I have tried to remove an end goal or expectation from my mind before we do something. Sometimes it helps and sometimes I just bite my tongue.

  2. I agree with Kalyn. I’ve been doing “crafts” with Aiden at least once a week. I always get so disappointed afterwards b/c he didn’t “behave” like I thought he should, or it wasn’t a hit like I imagined it would be. I think our expectations/vision of how things should be often gets in the way of us letting our kids grow and learn for themselves. Matthew looks like he loves soccer, even without all of his gear on!

  3. Oh I think this is such a mum thing!! You are not alone! It looks from this photo that M is having a blast at soccer.. and sounds like it too 🙂 I know how hard it must be to see him seem to not be doing it ‘properly’ but it is the fun that matters most. I am glad you are both getting better with it each week. Isn’t that the case so often in this parenthood gig? Learning together!

    Also, Anthony and I are the same… as in, different! Yesterday I believe his exact words were, “Oh here comes the ice queen to ruin our fun!” when he was doing something with her which I forget now… Lids dancing on the kitchen counter? Them both drawing on her tummy with markers (which I am in the process of teaching her are just for paper)? Arrrg… Dads!! 😉

  4. Ugh, I have a feeling this is something I will struggle with too once Chloe gets involved in more things. Gymnastics has already been a preview and it’s not a good one lately. I grew up seeing the “crazy soccer parents” and vowed I would never be one, but that doesn’t mean I don’t get frustrated. I do have to be better at remembering especially at this age it’s all about fun, getting them to try new things, and socialize a bit. I bet Matthew is so cute playing soccer! I wouldn’t have thought they would enroll that young, but I bet it’s a riot to watch all the kids!

    • Check out Happy Feet. I bet you have it there. They start the kids at 2, which honestly… is seeming a bit too young to me. He’s getting better every week, but that doesn’t mean he is behaving. 😉

  5. looks like he’s having blast! I am sure I will have a tough time with this too….we expect so much out of them, especially when we know what they’re capable of, but no 1 thing is to have fuN!

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