All the Sun For You

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Fool me Once


Oh how quickly you forget certain aspects of parenting, even the lessons learned from stories you still currently tell.

An example of this?

When Matthew was 4-5 weeks old, he was not sleeping well and hated the pack and play. One night, we ran out of diapers in our room so I took him into the nursery to get more. I put him in his crib, crying of course, and within a few seconds, he was asleep. I stood there watching him for a minute before returning to our room, minus the baby, and declaring to B that Matthew had officially moved out of our room – all on his own.

Did I learn from that?

Hell no.

Fast forward to now. Bryson has hated the pack and play for a couple of weeks now. He’s not sleeping, and I’m not sleeping. I haven’t recognized myself in days, and picked an awful fight with B for no reason, other than what we assume is a severe lack of sleep (B forgave me). No one has been happy.

So yesterday, with a very fussy baby in my arms, I said, “I’ve had it, I need to sleep. I’m trying the nursery and crib tonight.”

And this happened:

Apparently, I learned nothing the first time around! At least, I didn’t remember what I’d learned the first time around. I triumphantly told B today that if we have a third baby, that he will be in our room the first two nights, and then he graduates to the nursery.

And I mean it!

(By no means was last night perfect, but I got sleep in 2 hour chunks which is more than I’ve gotten in weeks!)

Author: Courtney

Hi, there, I’m Courtney. I never planned to stay home with my kids, but I got sucked into motherhood when my first baby came into our lives after years of infertility and multiple rounds of IVF. His brother followed closely behind, something we didn’t plan on after having such a rough road with achieving parenthood the first time around. My boys are IVF cycle twins, conceived on the same day but born two years and one day apart (they were both transferred on the same day in October, but with two years between them). My boys are the best of friends and my husband is a terrific husband, father, and most importantly… friend. He fully supported my desire to stay home (“I just wanted it to be your idea and not mine, I totally want you to stay home and raise our kids!”) and encourages me in everything I do. I am a lover of projects, spreadsheets, fitness, healthy cooking and eating, crafts, selling my stuff on FB (HA!), and the outdoors. If I’m active, I’m pretty darn happy!

10 thoughts on “Fool me Once

  1. So glad it worked a second time, once you thought to try! 😉 And so glad you are getting more sleep now. Hope it continues!

  2. That’s wonderful! Sometimes babies just need their space too. Hoping lots more sleep is headed your way!

  3. We are sticking with just one, but every once in awhile I get nostalgic and think to myself how much easier it would be the second time around because I all ready learned so many lessons. But this just shows me that I would probably not benefit from that, as I have a feeling I would do the same!

    I also figure different babies different personalities! If we had a laid back baby, I don’t imagine we would parent the same way, since Avery is so independent, sassy, strong willed, and high maintenance! (I totally adore her and love her to pieces, this is just who she is)!

    I hope that things get a bit easier, I remember the sleep deprived days and I cringe!

  4. LOL, well I’m glad you got it figured out! I’m totally planning on #2 sleeping in our room the first 6 months like last time (Stella slept best in the crook of my arm or on Charlie’s chest for months)…and this buys us time to figure out a ROOM for this new child. But ya…this just reminded me of the best laid plans… eek! Funny how all kids are different, but some lessons remain the same. 🙂 Glad you’re getting a bit more sleep!

    • Josey, I was thinking about you guys the other day and wondering about the ROOM situation, since I remember you carved out Stella’s room from an open living space, right? We’re going to be moving FOR SURE, but we rent, so that’s easy. We might not move until after #2 is here, since we plan to cosleep, too, but this post makes me wonder what we’d do if that turned out to not be what #2 actually wanted!!

      • Ha, ya, I have no idea what we’ll do. I have no problem with kids sharing rooms, but Stella’s room is so tiny there isn’t room for a crib AND toddler bed in there (just a bunk bed type situation) — so we need to figure out something! First world problems I guess. 🙂

  5. Sleeeeeepppppp! Hope the trend continues.

  6. Honestly, I can barely remember the early days with Sofia, so without prior consideration I’m sure I’ll just naturally fall into the same behaviors I had with her. They say it’s not a mistake until you make it a second time (or something like that) but I can’t believe that’s true when it comes to parenting newborns. Who has time (or energy or brain power) to actually THINK?!?!

    Glad you got it figured out!!

  7. Cheers to sleep! It really is a wonderful thing, isn’t it? Hope you start getting some even longer stretches!

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