Our beta is tomorrow.
I won’t be posting the number here on my blog. I will simply notify if we’re looking good or not – but that is all.
And here’s why. We’ve been here before. We’ve been through 4 cycles now and so far, have 1.1 kids to show for them. We’ve had the flat-out negative beta, a questionable beta (ended in an empty sac), and a super high “it must be twins” beta. I learned very valuable lessons from each situation – the number means nothing specific and I don’t want speculation.
Speculation is normal. Everyone has their own experiences to draw from. We like to see other people with similar experiences (when they’re positive experiences). I’ve seen quite a few bloggers with high betas lately and most of their commenters say, “I bet it’s twins.” Well – I had an unusually high beta for 10dp5dt and betabase even had me at the highest end for twins. Turned out I did have twins, but lost one before the ultrasound (could see its sad little sac degenerating away). I always think about that when people post about their high betas, and then commenters chime in and speculate that twins are onboard. It literally nauseates me (because of my own personal experience).
So I will avoid all of that speculation in an attempt at self-preservation. But I will let you know if it’s looking good or not.
I also think that many blog posts (and their titles) announcing beta numbers and ultrasound results can be triggers for those TTC (#1 or #5 – it doesn’t really matter, right?). I’m not judging here – just saying it’s not my cup of tea. I am ultra-sensitive to this – I tend to follow lots of gals and guys still trying for their first take-home baby and I ache for them. I don’t want to post anything that could upset them, especially something that pops up in their reader when they could be having a rough day. I don’t want them to see my post title of “Baby on Board” and be caused even a moment of heartache.
So tomorrow, I will not be posting my beta numbers on my main blog. I may put them in my TTC timeline – I’m not sure yet. I do ask, though, that if I put the numbers there, please do not speculate within the comments as to what you think they mean.
This is weird territory for me, I feel like I’m straddling the fence. I am excited, but I’m also still an infertile who very much feels that pain. If I’m not feeling it for me, I’m feeling it for others. And the truth is, I wouldn’t have it any other way. This is who I am.