All the Sun For You

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Transfer Eve


It’s the day before transfer, and I’m calm.  So very calm.  I’ve never been this calm during a cycle before, and I know it’s because of this:

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I’ve been thinking about the 40% success rate of frozen transfers at our clinic versus their 60% success rate with fresh cycles.  I don’t know why I’ve never thought about this before, but maybe it’s not due to the embryos being frozen.  Maybe it’s due to the grade of the embryos.  It’s no secret that they use the best looking embryos for the fresh transfer and freeze the “leftovers.”  What I know, though, is that our embryos are very highly graded and we’ve been told that there’s really no difference between the ones that are frozen, and the ones that were used for our fresh cycles.  So maybe our chances are a little higher than the clinic average?

I don’t know.  I’m just thinking through it.

I’ve been asked if I’m excited.  No, I am not.  I will be excited if it works, but I’m a seasoned veteran who knows that there is nothing exciting about the dreaded two-week wait.  I hope that I’ll have something to be excited about a week from tomorrow (when I POAS at 7dp5dt), but I’m not excited right now.  I’m most definitely not excited about two days of bed rest.*  I’m not excited about not being able to really play with Matthew for a few days.  I’m not excited about our cable being disconnected today – just in time for bed rest.  HA!

But I am excited about my two-hour massage tomorrow before the transfer!

* Bed rest really doesn’t improve odds of success at all.  Much research has found that clinics only prescribe it so that you don’t blame yourself later if the cycle doesn’t work.

Author: Courtney

Hi, there, I’m Courtney. I never planned to stay home with my kids, but I got sucked into motherhood when my first baby came into our lives after years of infertility and multiple rounds of IVF. His brother followed closely behind, something we didn’t plan on after having such a rough road with achieving parenthood the first time around. My boys are IVF cycle twins, conceived on the same day but born two years and one day apart (they were both transferred on the same day in October, but with two years between them). My boys are the best of friends and my husband is a terrific husband, father, and most importantly… friend. He fully supported my desire to stay home (“I just wanted it to be your idea and not mine, I totally want you to stay home and raise our kids!”) and encourages me in everything I do. I am a lover of projects, spreadsheets, fitness, healthy cooking and eating, crafts, selling my stuff on FB (HA!), and the outdoors. If I’m active, I’m pretty darn happy!

22 thoughts on “Transfer Eve

  1. Good luck tomorrow and enjoy your two days of bed rest! I had to go back to work today and it is a drag, for sure 🙂

    • Thanks, Belle!

      Going back to work is always a drag, isn’t it? All the bed rest in the world won’t make going back to work fun 😉

      I’m anxious to see how things turn out for you! I won’t say I have a good feeling because I think that’s hocus pocus thinking… but I HOPE with everything in me that THIS is YOUR cycle! I would willingly give up my own chance at success for you to have it – if it could actually work that way.

  2. Ahhhhhhhh! All the best of luck!!

  3. Happy boy!!!

    That’s interesting about the bed rest. I’ve always wondered about that! I used CCRM in Denver for my IUI (in case we needed IVF – I wanted the best!), and they just said to keep the heart rate below a certain level, but to continue life pretty much normally. I laid down the first 18 hrs or so anyway, just b/c I didn’t want to blame myself if something went wrong, so I’d guess that research is pretty spot on! LOL. Then again, I also went out and got smashed at 9dpo because I was convinced it hadn’t worked. Ooops.

    Hoping that you have some GREAT news to share in a about a week!!

    • Oh Josef you make me laugh!!! I can’t change your name!! With Molly round I took a week off work and rested.

    • It is so refreshing to hear of clinics who don’t prescribe bed rest! If ours didn’t, I wouldn’t do it. Well.. B would probably make me anyway but still!

      9 or 10dpo was too early for alcohol to affect her anyway. That’s why they have a yolk sac when they start out 😉

      • THANK YOU! That’s exactly what I told a cpl of ppl – no nutrients (or alcohol) are going through the placenta yet. Obviously a SHIT LOAD of ppl who get pregnant without “trying” drink during the 2ww and their kiddos are fine.

  4. Ooooh a POAS gal. I hate hpt with a passion!! Good luck I hope it’s a one try success! Here for you when the crazies hit x

    • Ya, i got a BFN at 10dpIUI and it crushed me. Looking back, it must have been that night that I got drunk (see above *grin*). I finally got a FAINT positive at 12dpIUI… it’s just scary to test early, b/c the false negatives can be so crushing! In the future I’ll never test before AT LEAST 12dpo.

    • Ha! Thanks! The crazies will hit at 5dp5dt. EVERY TIME.

  5. Good luck tomorrow! I’m glad you’re feeling nice and calm. My RE didn’t recommend bed rest beyond the day of, and even that they weren’t too strict about it, but I did lay down for most of the day just in case. Enjoy a little time off your feet, and hopefully the 2ww will fly by! 🙂

    • Thanks!

      Another clinic not prescribing bed rest – I love it! What’s next – no PIO shots? (I have read that there is no proof that they helf an IVF cycle… I would so love to not do them!) I think it will be interesting to learn about protocols in the future. I bet PIO and bed rest are long gone from IVF cycles in 10 years.

      • On the day of my transfer my RE kept referring to the baby aspirin regimen and Medrol as “hocus pocus”, and said take them anyway, but he felt that Endometrin was the only one what actually mattered. So add those to the list! Ha!

  6. Well *I* am excited! I just can’t believe it is already here! I remember us talking about this day when we first met…and now it’s here! No matter what happens, I am just so proud of you and your determination to build your family exactly how you want it. I will be thinking of all the Ds tomorrow!!! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo 🙂

  7. OOOH!!! I so know exactly how you feel…while you’re being transferred tomorrow I go in for my first monitoring appointment. I’ll find out when I trigger and when my next transfer is….

    Bedrest at my clinic is listed as “couch” rest…And the whole laying still forever after transfer doesn’t improve chances either….I so hope this works for you…

    2 hour massage…that sounds AWESOME!!! I wonder if I could talk my hubs into letting me do that…but it’ll probably be 1 hour massage and 1 hour acupuncture.

    Good luck and I’ll be thinking of you…

    as for the POAS thing…I’m going to swear by 8dp5dt as that is when I got my + with Raegan….I don’t know if I’ll even test this time…it was so disappointing last time….

    Love the pics of you and Matthew!

    • Yeah – I have to lie still for 30 minutes afterwards and even my RE has said it’s just a stupid protocol so that patients don’t ask him why he doesn’t make them do it. HA! I have such honest doctors (which I love!).

      I am a “member” at a massage place and I pay for 1 massage per month – and you can carry them over indefinitely. I have 22 piled up. This is by design – I get a weekly massage while pregnant for my back and hips (lower disc degeneration in my back). These massages helped make my pregnancy fun – seriously! The two hour massage is already paid for – so it was a no-brainer!

  8. No cable during bed rest…torture! Lol I’d go crazy, but there is always Netflix or Youtube! The massage sounds amazing, wishing you all the best on your transfer today!

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