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3+ Years

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I went out with my girlfriends for dinner tonight.  We had a nice time!  The gals I met are my two friends who have done IVF.  They’re the gals I wrote about in this post.  We talked about how far we’ve all come since those dark days of coaching each other through the madness that is IVF and life in general.  It’s amazing to look back and think that 2 of the 3 of us didn’t have kids when we first met, that we were desperately trying to have babies, and that now – one of us has a 6-year-old, two of us have toddlers, and one of us is expecting baby #2 (not me!).  A lot has changed in 3+ years!

And we’re all happy.  We’re all so very happy with our lives!

We did talk about pregnancy announcements and how they affect us.  We briefly discussed particular ones that were alarmingly painful for us “back in the day.”  We talked about how some pregnancy announcements can still startle us, but for different reasons.  I summed it up by saying, “now when I hear that someone is pregnant, I have a healthy small dose of reasonable jealousy.  I’m jealous that they were able to achieve it without cold, hard science – but I’m happy for them that they were able to do so.  Before, I had nothing but the raging ‘I hate you, you effing fertile cow’ jealousy.”  Yeah – I’ve come a long way  😉

It’s so nice to have friends I can admit this to.  I’m all about admitting “the ugly” in myself – it helps me set it free and move on.  But it’s really nice when you can admit “the ugly” to people who nod along and fully understand you.  These girls – they understand me!

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Author: Courtney

Hi, there, I’m Courtney. I never planned to stay home with my kids, but I got sucked into motherhood when my first baby came into our lives after years of infertility and multiple rounds of IVF. His brother followed closely behind, something we didn’t plan on after having such a rough road with achieving parenthood the first time around. My boys are IVF cycle twins, conceived on the same day but born two years and one day apart (they were both transferred on the same day in October, but with two years between them). My boys are the best of friends and my husband is a terrific husband, father, and most importantly… friend. He fully supported my desire to stay home (“I just wanted it to be your idea and not mine, I totally want you to stay home and raise our kids!”) and encourages me in everything I do. I am a lover of projects, spreadsheets, fitness, healthy cooking and eating, crafts, selling my stuff on FB (HA!), and the outdoors. If I’m active, I’m pretty darn happy!

4 thoughts on “3+ Years

  1. Good friends that you can be real and honest with are the best! Glad you have these girls that have shared similar experiences- they are priceless!

    • These girls are awesome, but so are all of you in the blogging world. Seriously – I have found so much happiness in my “conversations” with all of you!

  2. It sure is nice to have friends like that, I have maybe one IRL that has been through similar trials, but otherwise I turn to my blog and you fabulous ladies for a pick me up if I need one. I’m glad you have these girls also.

    • I think we’re all lucky to have each other in the blogging world. I keep telling my IRL infertile friend that she needs to blog – that I’m a happier person now that I have this outlet!

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