I went out with my girlfriends for dinner tonight. We had a nice time! The gals I met are my two friends who have done IVF. They’re the gals I wrote about in this post. We talked about how far we’ve all come since those dark days of coaching each other through the madness that is IVF and life in general. It’s amazing to look back and think that 2 of the 3 of us didn’t have kids when we first met, that we were desperately trying to have babies, and that now – one of us has a 6-year-old, two of us have toddlers, and one of us is expecting baby #2 (not me!). A lot has changed in 3+ years!
And we’re all happy. We’re all so very happy with our lives!
We did talk about pregnancy announcements and how they affect us. We briefly discussed particular ones that were alarmingly painful for us “back in the day.” We talked about how some pregnancy announcements can still startle us, but for different reasons. I summed it up by saying, “now when I hear that someone is pregnant, I have a healthy small dose of reasonable jealousy. I’m jealous that they were able to achieve it without cold, hard science – but I’m happy for them that they were able to do so. Before, I had nothing but the raging ‘I hate you, you effing fertile cow’ jealousy.” Yeah – I’ve come a long way 😉
It’s so nice to have friends I can admit this to. I’m all about admitting “the ugly” in myself – it helps me set it free and move on. But it’s really nice when you can admit “the ugly” to people who nod along and fully understand you. These girls – they understand me!