All the Sun For You

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Yeah – It Doesn’t Work That Way


It hit me today that I will NOT be doing our FET in August like I thought.  When my friend was over today with her daughter, we talked through my cycle and I realized that I won’t get my first post-nursing period until August, at which time my RE wants to do a mock transfer.  They will put me on BCP on day 1 of that first cycle and then the FET will be about 45 days later.  We’re looking at September or early October, which is when we did the transfer for Matthew.  I am totally cool with this – but it did surprise me that I hadn’t thought through this earlier than now.

The good news of all of this is that I’m obviously not obsessed with TTC/IVF like I was when we were trying so hard to get Matthew.  When we were working on getting him, I would build spreadsheets to figure out when I may cycle if this one, or that one, didn’t work and if I had a chemical pregnancy, etc.  I was a crazy woman.  This time?  My RE said we’d do the cycle in August and I just figured, “oh, a  transfer in August.”  No – it does not work that way  😉  So late September it will be if I get my period when I expect it.

Again – totally cool with it!  It means I have even more time with just Matthew, which is ultimately what I want.  The idea of another baby makes me a little sad because Matthew is my bestie and I don’t want that to change.  But I do want him to have a bestie that is closer to his age than his dear old mom – and that is why we’re doing this when we are.  He LOVES other kids and really needs to have one of his own at home  😉

Author: Courtney

Hi, there, I’m Courtney. I never planned to stay home with my kids, but I got sucked into motherhood when my first baby came into our lives after years of infertility and multiple rounds of IVF. His brother followed closely behind, something we didn’t plan on after having such a rough road with achieving parenthood the first time around. My boys are IVF cycle twins, conceived on the same day but born two years and one day apart (they were both transferred on the same day in October, but with two years between them). My boys are the best of friends and my husband is a terrific husband, father, and most importantly… friend. He fully supported my desire to stay home (“I just wanted it to be your idea and not mine, I totally want you to stay home and raise our kids!”) and encourages me in everything I do. I am a lover of projects, spreadsheets, fitness, healthy cooking and eating, crafts, selling my stuff on FB (HA!), and the outdoors. If I’m active, I’m pretty darn happy!

15 thoughts on “Yeah – It Doesn’t Work That Way

  1. It’s funny when you know you have to go through IVF and you already have one then you can roll with the punches a little easier than what you may have in the past. And the way I look at it is late September = summer baby!!

    • I know! I never thought I’d be so relaxed about it.

      Looks like you’re getting ready to have a baby! I’m going to follow along! Looks like I have a lot of past reading to do on your blog. Forgive me for asking, but I don’t see it in your about page. Do you already have one child?

  2. When are you planning on weaning Matthew? Are you thinking you’ll do it all at once or keep a couple feedings and see if that’s enough? Or do you have to totally ween him to do the FET? (Can you tell I’m starting to think about this, too?)

    • Fully and completely by June 30. Sniff, sniff. I am going to start on the 25th and do it over a 5 day period, cutting a feeding each day. My RE won’t let me do anything until all BF-ing is done because even a little messes with your hormone levels.

      • Oh my gosh, wow, you are really moving forward. I admire your ability to make a decision and just do it. I’m so wishy washy. We’re not going to try for another one for a least a few years, if at all, but even if we were planning to try I would be so wishy washy.

      • We have to! Matthew is desperate for a little friend to play with 😉 And… I’m not getting any younger. HA!

  3. This is so interesting to read. And so good too. For some reason I thought you already had a PP period.

    I hope you write more on this shift in thinking as I am trying to get there myself. I find when I start thinking about it I get even more worked up than before because I don’t want it to be the same. I’m afraid it will be. I’m glad to know that baby others are wrestling with how and when to start treatment again. 🙂

    • *maybe, not baby! Freudian slip?!

    • I so wish I’d had a PP period – I mean – after all – we’re supposed be trying naturally. 😉 HA! My RE says it will take 2-6 weeks post nursing and that I can’t count it if it’s during weening – that it has to be once I’m totally done BFing. I just don’t see that happening until August, but maybe I’ll be the 2 week-er. You never know. When I stopped the pill, I got my first PP after 26 days. We shall see!

      • I find it so interesting how BFing affects your period coming back. Mine “came back” in February, but has gone right back to being totally effed! I still have a req for CD3 bloodwork just gathering dust for whenever AF decides to show her stupid face again. Hopefully before my next RE appt. in 3 weeks. I’m still BFing regularly, so I am interested to know to what degree BFing is affecting my cycle, and to what extent PCOS is still screwing with it. I think it’s still the later, but I just want to get the data going again dammit!

      • Let me know how things go with your RE. I’ll be curious to hear what they have to say. I bet the BFing is effing with you more than the PCOS. You and I are very similarly nursing our boys and my period hasn’t shown a single sign of returning. I will be so pissed off if I stop nursing and it comes back, though, in two weeks. I’m not ready to start IVF again until August – and if it comes back before then, then that means I could have nursed even longer.

        I’m putting the cart before the horse though!

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